This is uniquely frustrating and equally interesting, and also a cry for help. I’m researching laser history and while there is considerable reference material out there, none of it has anything to do with the timeline of hobby lasers or the timeline of consumer laser products beyond laserdisc players or laser printers, or barcode scanners.
There simply isn’t much documentation of the development of consumer grade desktop lasers. Forum discussions from the early 2000’s now point to a bunch of dead links. It would take considerable effort to rebuild that knowledge.
Best I can tell the consumer market started at least down this path:
The Chinese developed a CO2 laser that was cheaply made solely for purpose of making rubber stamps for your signature for official documents. But I have no idea when they first began making them. The CO2 laser was invented in 1963 and the oldest reference on the internet I can find for someone in the US buying one of these units is from 2008 off of eBay.
These things have been around at least since then, and maybe a couple of years before. Pre Pandemic you could get one for about $300. Now they are about $450 and currently are affectionately called the K40 as they are 40 watt CO2 lasers.
They originally came with a control board that only worked with software called Moshidraw and I can find no real timeline for that software development either. I believe that board was referred to as a Moshi board. The DIY folks began developing boards for these lasers and that continues to this day. Until recently I owned my own K40 and while they looked pretty polished the purchaser had to upgrade and mod these things to make them sing. You almost certainly had to add a control board that was compatible with laser software such as Lightburn.